A first-person column tells how a friend spent five years afraid to love anyone because of an obsessive former pursuer described as a love-crazed man. The friend moved from one rented room to another and slept over at friends' places just to avoid crossing paths with him. The precautions stretched on so long that dating became off limits entirely. Even the wedding brought anxiety, since the friend feared the man would show up and wreck the ceremony. The account captures how deeply an unwanted pursuit can intrude on a life.