SINGAPORE - Writer Don Shiau, 45, and his then wife waited nearly three years before filing for divorce - holding out for a new legal option for them to part ways without blaming each other.They used divorce by mutual agreement, which kicked in on July 1, 2024, as it did not feel truthful or fair to cite unreasonable behaviour as the reason for their marriage ending.«It was not the kind of divorce (where you think) 'You are so unreasonable that I cannot live with you anymore',» said Shiau.«We felt we conducted ourselves well in the marriage. So to go on record to say (there was) unreasonable behaviour, it didn't feel emotionally right.»The childless couple separated amicably.There was no major deal breaker like adultery or abuse, said Shiau, who obtained his former wife's blessing for this interview.He added that their marriage counsellor had said their main issue was the way they handled conflict.«We had very different approaches to resolving conflict, and it ended up taking a toll on both of us,» he said.«We ended up feeling unhappy and resentful, and it felt (like the marriage) couldn't work anymore.» Read more